The scene explores the sexual gratification of the boy through chastity & denial while maintaining an emotional balance of the relationship. It also expands on the power imbalance between Daddy and boy related to T/their sexual activity.

The high level goals of the scene are as follows:

Ÿ Sexual energies increased in household between Daddy and boy

Ÿ Daddy remains sexually fulfilled at all times

Ÿ boy remains sexual chastised most of the time

Ÿ Daddy/boy remain mentally fulfilled at all times

Ÿ Daddy wields almost complete power over the sexual activity in the relationship up to and including control over when and how the boy will be allowed to sexually release

Ÿ boy demonstrates his submission to Daddy through certain actions throughout the scene

Ÿ boy enters “boyspace” (heightened submission to Daddy’s will)

Exceptions to the Rules

All the rules stated for this scene carry 2 major exceptions:

Ÿ “Safe words” (of course) in case the scene goes wrong

Ÿ Daddy's Decision - an exception can be made for specific reasons only

Ÿ Health

Ÿ Safety

Ÿ Comfort

Ÿ Daddy wants it to be so

Ÿ Reason to be discussed with Daddy and He must agree with it (boy suggests / Daddy decides)

Changes to the Document

Ÿ As Daddy and boy become more comfortable with the chastity scene, it is assumed they will wish to make changes to the chastity template defined in this document

Ÿ Both Daddy & boy are encouraged to suggest changes to the scene to keep it “fresh”

Ÿ Changes should be suggested and documented while in the scene so both Daddy & boy are already in the proper D/s mindset. For the boy, the changes can only be initiated while in the scene. For Daddy, changes may be initiated at any time

Ÿ Changes should relate to overall scene goals (increased sexual energy in the relationship, increased sexual gratification for Daddy, increased sexual denial for the boy, power imbalance, etc)

Ÿ Changes will be added to a copy of the current document in red so they can easily be found

Ÿ Document to be reviewed once a scene ends. Changes will be discussed and mutually agreed upon. The agreed upon changes will be accepted into the document

Ÿ Pattern of changes:

· Initiate a change during a scene when Daddy & boy in D/s mindset and both inclined to enhance the scene

· Review/approve the changes outside of a scene within 1-2 days of scene ending

· Confirm acceptance of template after new scene begins and power dynamic is back in place

· Life experiences and challenges may require reformatting of template.

Outside of the scene

This sections defines the activity that occurs outside of the scene itself

It covers:

Scene Preparation

Planning Ahead

Avoiding the Crash

Scene Initiation and Duration

Scene Preparation

boy is to be prepared to enter the scene at any time when directed by Daddy. Each week (starting the morning after the previous scene ending) while outside of the scene, the boy is to shave his balls and trim down his crotch hair. Daddy (at His discretion) will perform random inspections to make sure the task is completed to His satisfaction.

Planning Ahead

Daddy to monitor families schedule looking for good times to implement new chastity scenes. boy to provide Daddy with documentation of major workload events along with vacation / PBA available. Daddy to define vacation days for the boy so enhanced chastity restrictions can be implemented

Avoiding the Crash

When out of scene, boy is to orgasm/ejaculate at a much higher frequency than normal for him. This keeps his sex drive high and avoids the crash that normally comes at the end of a scene. Frequency of ejaculation is based upon a combination of both Daddy’s and boy’s sexual needs. If boy is feeling frisky he may present himself to Daddy for play

Scene Initiation and Duration

Each scene is initiated at Daddy’s discretion. boy may request a scene but Daddy decides if and when it will start. Daddy initiates a scene with the simple indication that the scene is starting. No additional details are needed. boy removes clothing and puts on chastity cage.

Once the scene is initiated, Daddy & boy do a confirmation review of the scene template. Both confirm that it contains the details of the current scene. No changes may be initiated by the boy at this time. (outside of the feedback sessions).

Scene continues until Daddy indicates that scene has ended. Until Daddy indicates the scene has ended, the default assumption is that the scene is continuing.

boy may stop scene if there is an emergency break needed.

The Chastity Scene

This section talks about the actual mechanics of the chastity scene itself

It covers:

D/s Dynamic

Sexual Activity

Feedback Sessions

D/s Dynamic

During the scene, the D/s power dynamic is even more important. The boy’s willing submission to Daddy’s power helps to maintain & reinforce the rules of the scene. During the scene, the natural Daddy/boy dynamic is enhanced with the following conditions:

Ÿ Daddy / boy verbally reinforce each other’s roles where possible. boy to use the term "Daddy" instead of "Honey" for example.

Ÿ Decisions are deferred to Daddy. boy may suggest a course of action but Daddy makes the final decision for the family. boy may discuss Daddy decisions but he may never argue. All discussion ends if/when "Daddy says so"

Ÿ boy is to remain in a submissive role. Daddy will “remind” boy of his submission if needed.

Ÿ The entire scene details in this document are considered "binding" for the boy but only "suggested" for Daddy.

Ÿ boy may be a submissive but he is not a slave, not everything goes on his shoulders. Daddy is not to get power hungry.

Drive to Maintain & Improve Scene

Ÿ Some changes may need to occur to household routine to maintain boy’s nudity and chastity as part of the scene. Both Daddy and boy adjust as needed to maintain the scene.

Ÿ Daddy to be very resistant to granting any waivers to scene restrictions so that the power of the scene continues to grow.

Ÿ Daddy to “keep boy honest” in the scene. Push boy to stay in scene and not get lazy. See earlier rules related to boy staying submissive and Daddy making decisions

Ÿ Daddy to drive for improvement to scene (stay in cage longer, better / more secure chastity device, ruined orgasms)

Ÿ As much as reasonably possible, Daddy keeps boy in cage unless he is restrained or monitored

Ÿ It is up to both Daddy and boy to maintain the parameters of the scene. If there is any confusion, the boy should ask for guidance. if boy does not ask but Daddy sees something amiss, it is up to Daddy to provide direction to keep the scene on track

Ÿ Daddy / boy to investigate other conditions to enhance power imbalance during scene

Miscellaneous Tasks

Ÿ boy to pick up mail and text Daddy when done

Ÿ boy to meet Daddy at door in kneeling position as often as possible

Ÿ boy to keep Daddy hydrated (coffee, water, dt cokes) as needed

Stay in Contact

Ÿ boy to text / call Daddy when changing locations (home, work, after work). Don’t worry about lunch breaks

Ÿ boy to monitor phone more often for Daddy’s calls/texts

Clothing

Ÿ boy remains nude for the majority of the time

Ÿ boy’s nudity waived for only two exceptions (work & Daddy’s permission)

Ÿ boy may not cover up in Daddy’s presence. Nothing may obstruct Daddy’s view of boy’s crotch or body.

Ÿ There are times when Daddy’s permission is assumed. He may always revoke the permission though

Ÿ Using blanket when cold

Chastity & Restraints

Ÿ boy to remain locked in both chastity & restraints during mornings, evenings, nights, and weekends

Ÿ boy is to wear cage if working from home

Ÿ boy has access to keys during the week to remove cage & restraints before work

Ÿ Key to cage is kept on Daddy’s round table

Ÿ boy puts cage & restraints back on as soon as he gets home from work

Ÿ As much as possible within the confines of life’s realities, boy is not to control the cage or restraints.

Ÿ If Daddy is present when the boy puts the cage or restraints on, Daddy is to lock them

Ÿ If Daddy is present when the boy removes the cage or restraints, Daddy is to unlock them

Ÿ Anytime boy is to be home alone, boy is to wear cage & restraints

Ÿ boy’s wearing of the chastity device and/or restraints can be waived only with Daddy’s permission

Ÿ There are times when Daddy’s permission is assumed. He may always revoke the permission though

Ÿ Restraints

Ÿ leaving house

Ÿ non-kink guests coming over

Ÿ exposure to something that will hurt the leather

Ÿ chastity cage

Ÿ Leg exercises

Ÿ Strenuous activity

Ÿ Riding the motorcycle

Ÿ Tight theatre seating

Ÿ Doctor’s appointments

Ÿ Blue jeans

Ÿ To avoid removing the cage, boy is to use Daddy’s bike over the weekends or ride behind Him on the bike

Position at Rest

boy’s position at rest is where the boy is located in the house when he is not actively fulfilling Daddy’s needs or the needs of the household.

It is Daddy’s discretion as to what the position at rest should be at any given time

Position at rest always includes physical contact with Daddy

Examples include:

boy laying across Daddy’s lap(work on more in place of at feet)

boy sitting next to Daddy on couch

Bed time

· boy is to go to bed at same time as Daddy. When Daddy indicates it is time to shutdown PC’s and start getting ready for bed, boy is to comply.

· With Daddy’s permission, boy can read comics in bed

Shaving

· Genital hair growth becomes a problem as the scene progresses. Daddy to define when and to what extent crotch hair is to be removed

· Hair removal is to be performed under the guidelines set forth by Daddy

· Daddy to monitor hair removal to make sure an unapproved release does not occur

Homework assignments (optional)

· Daddy will assign boy “homework” to do in spare time.

· More homework can be expected in vacation time than in non-vacation time.

· Homework may be sexual like looking up a video in Xtube or it may be D/s like writing a submissive sentence 100 times, or it may be simply a task Daddy wants to get done

Special Occasions

If boy is to be home alone more than 1 day, additional conditions may come into play to further enhance the power imbalance

Ÿ boy has no reason to have access to play toys in dungeon without Daddy present. Dungeon locked at all times

Ÿ all boy’s clothing in the house is locked away in the master closet and the game room closet. Daddy has access but boy does not.

Ÿ Key to chastity cage is held by Daddy. If cage needs to be removed, Daddy controls the action. He removes it and He puts it back on. boy is to never be granted control of the cage

Ÿ If errands need to be run, Daddy drives and pays

Ÿ An “emergency box” is put together. Box is secured with combination locks set by Daddy. The box contains the following items:

Ÿ Secondary keys to locked areas stored in separate envelopes

Ÿ Spare key to chastity cage stored in an envelope

Ÿ Spare set of clothes with shoes

Ÿ boys wallet with credit cards and cash

Ÿ boys set of keys (house and vehicles)

Ÿ boy is always to use the term “Daddy” instead of “Honey”

Ÿ boy is to ask permission to get up for unnecessary reasons. Bathroom breaks are the only necessary reason defined. If Daddy asleep in bed, He wants to be awakened to grant permission for boy to get out of bed. Permission only needed if both Daddy and boy are stable in one area (in bed, on couch, etc)

Ÿ boy is to shower in evenings when Daddy can monitor his activity.

Ÿ A discipline jar will be implemented (see section on Discipline)

Ÿ Daddy is strongly encouraged to suggest additonal rules to promote the scene goals.

Discipline

To enhance His dominance over boy and to maintain the protocols of the scene, Daddy will sometimes be required to enforce discipline.

Choice of discipline is up to Daddy but is chosen based upon the most impact to boy

· Removal of privileges (TV, laptop, games, etc) for some amount of time

· Time-out - boy to sit quietly without speaking (duct tape optional) for some amount of time

· Spankings

· Others to be defined

If Daddy or boy feel uncomfortable implementing the discipline immediately after the infraction that triggered it, the discipline may be delayed until tempers cool and feelings are no longer hurt. Discipline may not be delayed indefinitely.

Violating scene protocols lead to discipline. Refusing to submit to discipline is itself a violation. If boy refuses to submit, he gets a spanking plus the original discipline. If boy refuses to submit to the spanking, the entire scene ends until such time as boy apologizes to Daddy and submits himself for discipline

Discipline Jar

For infractions that do not reach the point of immediate discipline to correct, there is a Discipline Jar which contains a number of tokens. For every infraction over the course of the day, Daddy has boy move one or more tokens to the base of the jar. When all the tokens are in the base of the jar, boy receives some form of discipline.

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Tokens reset:

Token count does not reset once a discipline is given. Disciplines are not a free ticket for boy to misbehave! Enough tokens are removed based on the severity of punishment and to reduce the count below the level that triggers a discipline. boy is to be on his best behavior after a discipline to avoid incurring a second one.

Tokens reset over time:

Token count continues to increase until the number of infractions triggers a discipline. Once the discipline is given, the token count is reset.

Good behavior over time can reduce boy’s risk of incurring a discipline. At the end of each month a single token is removed.

Tokens do not reset automatically:

Token count continues to increase until the number of infractions triggers a discipline. Once the discipline is given, the token count is reset.

Number of Token = 10

Number of paddle swings = 5

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Type of Infraction	# of Tokens
Calling Daddy “Honey” instead of “Daddy”	1
Arguing with Daddy (discussion OK) (Daddy will warn if He feels boy is arguing)	1
Mail not picked up or picked up without text sent to Daddy	1
Call/Text not sent to Daddy when either leaving location or arriving at location	2
Daddy does not know where boy is. He is looking for boy and is worried	3
Daddy has to remind boy He needs diet coke or water	1
boy clothed without need	1
boy out of cuffs without need	1
boy out of cage without need	3
boy locks cage/cuffs when Daddy available to do it	1
boy unlocks cage/cuffs when Daddy available to do it	2
boy has to be reminded to get applesauce & medicine for Daddy	1
Homework assignments not done in a timely fashion (Daddy’s discretion)	1
boy carries wallet / keys without reason when running errands with Daddy	1
boy gets up without permission	1
boy has an unapproved orgasm	4
boy does not consume all ejaculate (both Daddy’s and his own) unless Daddy consumes	1
Sassiness OK; Poking fun is OK; Disrespect is not OK	2
Willfully breaking a rule (with forethought and without good reason acceptable to Daddy)	x2
Failure to update either journal or blog each day	1
Some form of exercise each day (walk / exercise equipment / physical tasks)	1
boy prepares most of Daddy’s meals. If boy slacks off enough times, it counts as an infraction (Daddy’s discretion)	1

These are only examples. Daddy may adjust the number of tokens based upon the impact/severity of the transgression. Daddy may waive infraction if He agrees with the reason it occurred.

Spanking

This is a spanking to reinforce the scene protocols and demonstrate Daddy’s dominance over boy. It is not meant to be pleasurable. Paddle used is one of the riding crop style paddles. There are no warm up swings. Number of swings and intensity of the swing is determined by Daddy but must be high enough to enforce the discipline. Marks/bruises are to be expected. boy is restrained in a bent over position to make his butt more available for each swing. boy wears a ball gag or duct tape for the spanking to muffle any sound. boy will wear hood if required by Daddy. Once the spanking is done, boy is to apologize to Daddy for the infraction(s) and thank Him for performing the discipline.

boy acknowledges how difficult it may be for Daddy to perform the spanking and is to make every effort to make the discipline easier for Daddy to handle

Sexual Activity

Ÿ Daddy has full power to set course/tone of sexual activity (what, when, where, and how). boy may suggest but Daddy decides.

Ÿ Daddy controls when boy is granted a sexual release, when boy’s sexual energy is enhanced, and when boy needs a milking

Ÿ boy to provide non-reciprocal sexual service to Daddy on demand via oral or other.

Ÿ boy to be restrained (handcuffs?) if cage is removed for play

Ÿ boy is to increase the frequency of the prostate milking under conditions set by Daddy.

Ÿ “What comes out of a boy goes back into a boy.” Daddy to feed milked and/or ejaculated fluids back to boy. boy consumes his own ejaculate as a form of submission

Ÿ During any play session, boy must give ongoing feedback to Daddy as to how close he is to orgasm so that Daddy can control / prevent the release

Enhance Sexual Energy

Ÿ As the boy spends more time in chastity, his interest in sex may decline. To prevent this, Daddy to encourage increase of sexual energy in the boy through the use of assigned tasks and edging

Ÿ Daddy may assign tasks to increase the boy’s sexual energy (example: spend 1 hour each day on Xtube or locate a chastity story online and provide critique to Daddy (what’s hot and what’s not))

Ÿ Daddy is encouraged to initiate mid-scene "edging" sessions to both increase boy's sexual energy and to further hide scene durations from the boy. Vary how far edging sessions go even to the point of removing the cage every few sessions so there is no way to distinguish an edging session from a release until the release is granted

Ÿ boy should not be able to guess when a release is coming based upon time in scene or type of play sessions. Daddy encouraged to "mix it up" so there is no indication a release is about to occur

Ÿ Chastity is enhancing boy’s skill with BDSM. Daddy may expand boy’s limits or introduce new fetishes at His discretion.

Ÿ Daddy to play with his “toys” whenever possible ; call for inspections as boy walks by

Ÿ Increase frequency of edging sessions to once a week at least

Ÿ Increase BDSM (dungeon) play to once per month at least.

Approved Releases

Ÿ boy’s release is a gift bestowed by Daddy. It is Daddy’s decision as to when a release is granted

Ÿ Daddy encouraged to keep the number of boy’s releases low to maintain boy’s higher sexual energy

Ÿ For prostate health, some form of release should occur every 2-4 weeks of chastity

Ÿ boy’s sexual release may take a number of forms (a retrograde ejaculation, a “ruined orgasm”, a successful prostate milking, or a full orgasm) (Daddy’s discretion). A “ruined orgasm” is anything that makes the orgasm less satisfying for the boy. Typically, they take the form of a normal orgasm with stimulation ended once the point of no return is reached. There will be some ejaculate. A retrograde ejaculation is an enhanced form of ruined orgasms. It occurs when Daddy pinches off the flow of the semen by clenching the base of the boy penis during the ejaculation in a ruined orgasm. Daddy must block the flow for at least one minute after all contractions have stopped to minimize the amount of spent ejaculate.

Ÿ A full orgasm should not be granted mid-scene as it defeats the goal of the scene. Only partial releases should be granted mid-scene

Ÿ Scene will usually end with a full release but that is not guaranteed. Even at the end of the scene, the type of release (if any) is still Daddy's decision

Ÿ If the boy is still in chastity after a release, Daddy to put boy back into cage as soon as possible. boy’s balls draw up tight after a release which makes boy very reluctant to get back in the cage. Daddy must enforce the rules and even help boy into cage if needed

Unapproved Release (“cheating”)

Ÿ It is assumed that the boy’s will power may weaken over time and boy may attempt to trigger an unapproved release

Ÿ All safeguards to prevent cheating must be in place

Ÿ If cheating cannot be prevented, it must be obvious it occurred. Daddy to review security camera footage regularly to ensure boy has not cheated. boy’s time in the shower (especially the morning after a release) is one of the times that must be monitored.

Ÿ Daddy must remain vigilant in monitoring the protocols of the scene to prevent release

Ÿ boy must be faithful to maintain the protocols of the scene to help maintain his resolve

Ÿ Daddy & boy work together as a team to identify and eliminate opportunities for boy to cheat. T/their mutual goal is to maintain the boy’s chastity until Daddy grants the gift of release

Ÿ Depending on the circumstances that led to an unapproved release, Daddy may feel a punishment is needed to reinforce the power dynamic of the scene. Daddy may discuss the need & type of punishment with the boy but the final decision is Daddy’s. Mutual goal is to get boy back to the higher sexual energy quickly and maintain the chastity so the benefits of the scene will continue

Feedback Sessions

Ÿ boy maintains a journal of his thoughts while in the scene. Journal is kept on boy’s laptop and available for Daddy to read . boy to alert Daddy to journal updates either verbally or through email. Daddy to review journal entries to maintain His insight to the boy’s mental health

Ÿ Feedback sessions are the opportunity for Daddy/boy to discuss the scene outside of the stricter power dynamic. It is imperative during this time that each should speak openly to make sure both are happy. Happiness in not just the scene, but the relationship.

Ÿ During these sessions, boy may discuss/appeal/argue Daddy decisions or initiate discussions about sexual play

Ÿ Each 1-2 nights Daddy and boy review the scene to give feedback to each other.

Ÿ Review should be in depth (what works, what doesn’t work, mental state, what needs to be monitored, etc)

Ÿ During each review, Daddy/boy mutually agree to continue/discontinue the scene or make adjustments to the scene

Ÿ Each weekend, after a full review giving feedback to each other, Daddy/boy mutually decide (formally) if they want to continue the scene for another week. Scene continues only until the originally planned end date of the scene

Ÿ For the week after the scene, Daddy/boy do another full review each night to keep communication open. Each should discuss aftercare needs as well

Ÿ Daddy/boy to be especially watchful for the following danger signs:

Ÿ Any indication of damage to the relationship

Ÿ Negative health aspects

Ÿ Negative impact on work performance

Ÿ Getting overwhelmed by the power of the scene

Ÿ Concerns related to an ongoing power imbalance in the relationship

Just beginning

Friday, December 23, 2011

An example of chastity agreement

Scene Mechanics

Scene Overview

Exceptions to the Rules

Changes to the Document

Outside of the scene

Scene Preparation

Planning Ahead

Avoiding the Crash

Scene Initiation and Duration

The Chastity Scene

D/s Dynamic

Drive to Maintain & Improve Scene

Miscellaneous Tasks

Stay in Contact

Clothing

Chastity & Restraints

Position at Rest

Bed time

Shaving

Homework assignments (optional)

Special Occasions

Discipline

Discipline Jar

Spanking

Sexual Activity

Enhance Sexual Energy

Approved Releases

Unapproved Release (“cheating”)

Feedback Sessions